This is What I See When I am Looking At You
You should be so proud of yourself
Introduction that might resonate with you
There are these two important moments in everybody’s life, I believe. Both are significant and somewhat mind-boggling.
One is the moment you realize that something that you thought only you experienced is, in fact, something a lot of people feel.
For example, when your stomach twists before an important presentation. Or when you sneeze if you look at the sun. The realization that you are not alone, is very comforting and normalizing. No surprise that finding these weird common things is what the best of stand-up comedy is built on.
But the other one is completely different.
It is the moment you realize that what you think is common for everyone turns out to be something only you feel.
For example, I can feel the atmosphere of every room I enter. I can feel if people were fighting, or if it is a loving and calm environment. I can feel how other people feel just by looking at them and I see if they are in alignment with their life's purpose. I thought that it was just how we, people are. But very recently I learned that only very few people feel the same.
Now I have come to terms with the fact that my ability to see you is something not so common.
And I want to share what are the things I see.
You are the sum of everything
Sometimes I feel people are trying to make themselves more boring than they are.
They want to be able to give themselves one strong title, one profession. It is appealing to people to be able to define themselves in three to five words. If they can add “20 years of experience” to that one title or profession, they feel very proud of themselves and are seen as more serious in other people's eyes, too.
Another thing is that people divide themselves into hours of the day. For example, from 9–5, you are a consultant, after hours you are a small children parent, but on the weekend you go bike riding. We tend to keep those different roles separate and avoid any mixing between them.
Remember that popular video when a child of Prof Robert Kelly entered the room while he was live on BBC?
My only problem with the video was- why is he acting like it is not his child? What changes if we now know that you are a father, working from home?
We are the sum of everything we are and our assumption that we need to play separate roles is robbing us of the whole experience.
We were never meant to stay the same
People are works in progress. Constant, everyday changing progress. We evolve in all the things we realize, learn, see, and experience every day.
The assumption that we need to be something One and Clear is a serious obstacle in our way of living the life we were intended to live.
I often hear people saying that a career change is “starting from the zero”. Like you could rewind the counter and turn the time back.
We never start from zero. It always builds on one another. Every experience, profession, job we have done, places we have been. Everything builds up and forms who we are.
This is how I see you
When I am looking at a person, I see the whole sum of everything the person is.
Every experience lived, everything you have ever read, every place you have visited, every conversation you have ever had — it is all in you.
And that sum of you is something absolutely unique. Something that has never been and will never be on this earth ever again. There is something in you, in your ideas, in the way you perceive things that only you can bring into this world. Only you.
It is incredibly beautiful, authentic, and unique. And you must use it. The world needs it.
We need more poets/engineers/runners/ bakers. More diplomats/bikers/singers/parents. More travelers/teachers/gardeners. We need those mixed experiences, unique points of view, and self-definitions that are written with several slashes.
Be and embrace the whole package of who you are.
Love,
Kristine
Thank you so much for reading!
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